Flying Solo: Fighting your Parents Fear

Recently I have been talking with a friend who is heading to Australia for 3 weeks on her first big trip. Although she is excited to go and will be meeting up with friends, her mother is fearful of what could possibly happen flying to another country.

Now, my mother is on the opposite side of the spectrum, she is excited for me to travel (and would find a way to join me if possible). She has concerns, but has never considered that I should not go. Mostly because I inherited my travelbug from her, secondly because I am 28 years old and she can’t say no to me anymore.

The fact is our parents will always worry, especially when we head to far off reaches of the world where we will have little to no contact back home, you may choose to upgrade your phone to an international plan, or you may choose to use your trip to disconnect from the world and fully embrace your new location.

Some of us will choose to ignore our parents (or friends, families, roommates, co-workers) concerns, but there are a few things you can do that will help reduce some of the fear:

1. Itinerary: It is always a smart choice for someone to have a copy of your itinerary, flight numbers and times, hotels and addresses. If you are visiting other countries and/or cities what days you plan to go/how you are getting there.

You don;t need to provide a minute by minute update, but providing an overview will be helpful, especially if something happens someone will know how to get in touch with you.

2. IMessage and FaceTime: If you own an Iphone or Apple product, even if you choose to not get an international plan, if you connect to wi-fi, even with data turned off you will be able to send messages. I don’t plan to use this much, but I know being able to send a ‘Just landed! See you when I get back!’ message is helpful.

3. Do your Research: My mom isn’t as worried about me because she knows I’ve done my research, I’ve learned about the area, places to go, places to avoid, cultural references/sayings/words. This will also be helpful for you being in a new place. Know your surroundings.

4. Social Media: Give updates, most likely you will probably be doing this anyway throughout your trip, if your parent doesn’t use social media, have a sibling update them, or hook them up to instagram, twitter or a blog for the time you are away.

5. Have Fun. Don’t let the worries of others put a damper on your trip. Taking a few steps will save your family some sanity from their worry while you go out and see the world! Enjoy it!

Side Note: You as an individual may be the one that is fearful about taking your first trip. Everyday we see the news and hear about things happening all over the world. Know this: Crazy things will always be happening in the world. Do not allow that to deter you from living, from seeing the world. God did not give us a spirit of fear. Do not let it stop you. If you are fearful remember this passage, Isaiah 41:8-10

“But you, Israel, my servant, Jacob, whom I have chosen, you descendants of Abraham my friend, I took you from the ends of the earth, from its farthest corners I called you. I said, ‘You are my servant’; I have chosen you and have not rejected you. So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Safe Travels!